To be able to love ourselves and have a fantastic quality of life are two of the main goals almost everyone on the planet has yet how many of us allow our outer world to reflect these goals? If you want to manifest self love and a high quality of life (and by that I mean whatever it is you consider to be a high quality of life) you have to create space to allow it to manifest. We often tend to think of this as an internal journey or process, and yes on the one hand it is. On the other hand if you are looking in a mirror, working on your self love affirmations and in the mirror you can see the bathroom is a mess behind you what message do you think this is giving to you own subconscious and everyone else’s about how you value and appreciate yourself and your life?
Your outer world the way you live, the way you dress shows both yourself and everyone else what you think of yourself and your worth. Both these things are mirrors to our relationship with us, our own self love and a mirror of the quality of life we think we deserve. So it stands to reason if you want to have a life of quality, if you want self love this needs to be taken into consideration in your everyday life. Yet how often we don’t take it into consideration, especially with our homes. How many of you rushed out the door this morning dreading the mess you will get home to? (Probably the majority of us!) It’s so easy to say ‘when I get promotion,’ ‘when I move into my dream home’ and ‘when I am living my dream life’ my home will reflect my high quality of life, it will show the world how much I love myself. But you are living in the here and now. Technically tomorrow never comes because when you wake up it is always today, the only day you have the power to change.
So putting the unpacking of the moving boxes off, leaving the washing/washing up/making the bed/emptying the closet until tomorrow means that that the jobs pile up and you don’t feel great about it. It’s depressing. And the universe hears it. If you take the principle that everything you send out gets reflected back to you then trying to manifest self love and a great quality of living whilst living in an environment and manner that says I am not worth better that is exactly what you are going to get.
And that is the complete opposite to what you want. You want an amazing life right now – right? Right.
So let’s do this here and now. I challenge you and me to dedicate this week to creating an environment that reflects your self love and the quality of life you. Here are a few tips to get you started.
What thoughts am I wearing today ?
Now it’s easiest to start with us because on some level we do this already when we go to work, out with friends etc. We all want to look our best. But have you ever thought about how your mental state affects the choices you make about what you wear and when? When I am feeling worn down I either go for the most comfortable clothes I can find or I dress up and put on a little makeup to boost my spirits, business meetings I power dress to make me feel confident and when gardening having my beaten up cowboy hat on makes me feel proper country and relaxed!
I used to make these choices unconsciously, allowing my mood to dress me. These days by my mirror stand an important post-it note with one sentence on it that reminds
me to be conscious about my choices. It simply says:
“What thoughts am I wearing today?”
Amazingly powerful. I want to feel great about myself. I want to feel strong. So these are the thoughts I put on and boy does it make a difference. Try it and you will see
I am worth the best
Do you remember the L’Oréal ads tagline “Because I am worth it” ? This is my mantra at home, well everywhere actually. I deserve the best and so do you. The I am worth the best attitude I started when I was actually pretty low on cash and at a point in my life where I was recovering from a very bad breakup. I wanted a quick way to remind myself everyday how great I am. So I took the decision to buy only organic food. And believe me that was not easy on the food budget I had.
Yet every time I saw the organic logo on my shopping, in my fridge I would think I am worth it. My body deserves the best. Even now 3 years later I have it. Today I don’t just keep it at food. I deserve the best and therefore my bed needs to be made so it’s a pleasure to return there at night, therefore eating dinner at a laid table with glasses not plastic bottles, and a candle or two decorating it reminds me every day I am worth the best. Its these small things that show me and the world and the universe that I have a high quality of life and I love myself.
What is the best for you? What shows you you are worth the best? Have a think about it and form to 2 new little habits this week to remind you that you are worth it.
Your home reflecting the quality of your life.
Now take a good look around you (well once you get home or also at your personal space at work). How does your home, your car, even your wallet reflect how you think about your life?
Is it organised and cosy or chaotic and depressing? I am by no means a neat freak.( Since childhood my floor has passed as a wardrobe and my mother will probably howl with laughter when she reads this next piece of advice and wonder where her daughter has gone.) However almost 20 years ago I read something which has stayed with me always. Quite simply that if you tidy up on the outside then you tidy up on the inside as well. When we clear away mess and cobwebs we make room for new energy to come and fill the space. SO no matter how much I don’t want to do the house work I know at the end of it I will feel 10 000 times better and my life also feels happier. But where to start.
First you write a description about how your dream home will be. Now compare it to your now home. Chances are some of the things you described are already there- yay go you! So now you just need to work on the other parts. And usually that means clearing out. Start with your wallet, then your bag, then one cupboard and the next until everything has had a cleanse out and you feel lighter. It’s amazing how much stuff we keep that bogs us down and wonderful the feeling of release to let it all go and give it away. Or even sell it if you can.
Now have a look around at your home again and have a great think about in each room
how you can reflect your love for you in one place. Maybe it’s a painting, a quote on the wall or even a notice board. A chair set up just for you to read and drink tea. A crafting corner. Your kitchen reorganised to suit your new dietary needs (and if you have been clearing out properly there will be more space with less plates etc!) A pamper station in the bathroom or even just a set up in the house that makes morning routines a bit easier will go a long way to you feeling good about yourself and loving your life right now, right this minute. Be inventive (or use pinterest as I do for inspiration) and have fun with this. In a way you are feng shui-ing your own home in harmony with your own chi (or flow of energy) it is all about you showing yourself and the world, on a very large scale, that you are worth it!
Just think how great you will feel about yourself when you post the pictures on Facebook or invite friends and family over in the future and they compliment you 😉
Take up the self love and life quality reflection challenge this week and begin building in your own time and tempo the strong foundations of a life when your outer world reflects your inner world in a positive and inspiring way where you have created space for you to love yourself, the look that tells people how wonderful you are and cleared the space for you to focus on quality not quantity in your everyday world.
Let me know how it goes by writing in the comments below. Have a wonderful week of self love and enhancing the quality of your life, until next time enjoy the journey ❤